For Kids on divorce, stepfamilies, and staying strong

Parents, if you only read one book about divorce and stepfamilies,
make it this one!


This wonderful book is a quick but profound read for parents, a lifesaving handbook for kids. Find immediate, concrete, and practical solutions! Get an inside look at how to reduce anxiety, accept family changes, encourage skill building, self-esteem, resilience and family teamwork. It's alive with examples, stories, tips, ways to solve problems and "words to try". 20 Chapters, 271 pages.

See "Kids and Parents" for more information

"Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is outstanding. In clear, non-condescending and understandable language Dr. Ricci gives children of divorce the tools to navigate the complications arising from their parents' divorce. Her common sense and practical approach to stepfamilies, moving between parents, managing friends and school and the myriad of issues children of divorce face is refreshing. Her teaching guides children to avoid shame and blame around their parents' divorce and provides tools to help them live a life driven by positive values, self-respect, service and the mission of developing their talents. Dr. Ricci's wisdom will inspire all who read this wonderful book."

-William J. Howe, III, Family Law Attorney, Former Chair, Oregon Task Force on Family Law


"This book is not simply another "how to" for kids, it is a door to another realm where the world of tweens and teens is center stage; where the best that law, psychology and wisdom have to offer is translated into their terms; and where the tragedy of parental divorce can become a transformation of understanding, growth and maturity for the older child."

-John Kydd, MSW, JD, Past President, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts


"Isolina Ricci has done it again! With the same insight, compassion and wisdom she provides to parents, Dr. Ricci now offers children hopeful solutions to living life in a dual-household family. A timely book that teaches children how to be resilient as they cope with difficult emotions after a parental divorce."

-Constance Ahrons, Ph.D., author, The Good Divorce and We're Still Family


"Ricci has a gentle touch that kids are sure to respond to. She earns their trust by treating with respect the issues that loom large for children but might escape a preoccupied adult's notice...the book includes several great tools, like "Words to Try" feature-suggested phrases to help kids articulate their feelings."

The "HOW-TO BOOK OF THE WEEK", Newsday, May 22, 2006


"When I was 7, my parents got divorced. I am now 18, and looking back I realize how confused I was about the breakup. Recently, my dad gave me an advanced copy of Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids, and asked for my opinion on the book. With the intention of only skimming a few pages, I found myself unable to put it down, and read the book in its entirety. I was amazed at the clear, simple, and compassionate way Dr. Ricci answered questions about divorce that baffled me in the past. The thing that impressed me most about Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids was the consistent positive message it conveyed. Without preaching, the book encourages children to make and fulfill positive goals, respect themselves and others, and above all come to acceptance about their parent's divorce. I know this book would have helped me in the past, and I would highly recommend it to any child going through divorce."

-Mark Howe


"I am pleased to offer wholehearted support for Dr. Isolina Ricci's newest book "Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids". Dr. Ricci has taken difficult topics and presented solutions for kids who are lost in the middle of their parents' separation or divorce. We will recommend this book in our Kids' Turn workshops conducted in six San Francisco Bay Area counties."

-Claire Barnes, Executive Director,KIDS TURN


"Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids is a wonderful book, full of common sense, practical advice, and above all, love. It will help every child troubled by a divorce, separation, or other family problem. This is a much-needed tool to support and guide children as well as parents."

-Riane Eisler author of "The Chalice and The Blade" and "The Real Wealth of Nations"


"Dr. Ricci's book is a must read for children whose parents are separating or going through a divorce. No other book gives children the information they need and as well as practical tools to handle the fallout from the divorce. Indeed, the book is also a must read for parents to enable them to understand how their children can cope with that fallout."

-Justice Donald B. King (Ret.)


"With decades of seasoned experience with divorcing families behind her, Isa reveals deep understanding and profound compassion for what children actually experience when their parents split up...It is challenging to try, in one book, to address a range of ages, developmental stages and the countless circumstances involved in the complex arena of divorce. Isa Ricci was clearly up to the task, and in the end covered a wide territory and covered it well. This book will stand the test of time, giving hope and help to the next generation of children of divorce. I strongly recommend this book to all of your child clients whose parents have parted ways."

-Family Mediation News, Spring 2006, Don Saposnek, Ph.D.


"This straightforward book manages to speak to kids, in their language, in a way kids can understand. Issues are presented in a clear, concise manner, and in segments simple and easy to understand, yet the messages contained in the book are powerful, profound, and wise. The book is organized so it is easy for the reader to flip to a section of interest and find immediate, concrete and practical solutions...What I love most of all is the book empowers kids of all ages to play an active role in managing their own lives and emotions following their parent's divorce...it gives children a sense of control and mastery over the confusion and chaos they often experience when the family structure changes. Isolina Ricci's many years of working with children and families shines through with her wisdom and knowledge, giving children a beacon of light to help them navigate and normalize the confusing issues that occur when one's parent's divorce. Hurray for a book like this whose time is long overdue!"

-Jane Ellen Shatz, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist


"...and give your children a copy of "Mom's House, Dad's House for Kids" by Isolina Ricci, even if they're living only at your house."

-Marguerite Kelly, "Stick with Counseling for Children of Divorce"
The Washington Post, June 9, 2006

For Parents on divorce, children,
custody, and Parenting Plans

This classic guide can help you and your family heal


Often called "the bible", this is the comprehensive guide that people return to again and again. The latest edition has 5 more chapters and 100 additional pages on family law, custody, dealing with the other parent, mediation, Parenting Plans, meeting children's needs, one and two homes, building family strengths, and much more. 20 Chapters, 8 Appendices, 381 pages.

See "Parents" for more information

"This book should be a required textbook for every divorcing parent. If both parents would read even designated portions and have meaningful dialogue, it could result in the substantial reduction of stress in what is very often the most difficult period in one's life. At the same time it could help avoid or reduce the traumatic effects that divorce usually causes to the children."

-Michael J. Ostrow, President, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers


"For 17 years, I have insisted that hundreds of my clients read and use Mom's House, Dad's House, the "Dr. Spock" of joint parenting books. The revised edition is a must-have resource manual."

-Joel Edelman, lawyer, mediator, counselor, and author, The Tao of Negotiation


"Specifically geared to meet the needs of today's parents, this is the definitive hands-on resource for all people dealing with the difficult, often heartbreaking experience of ending an intimate relationship--and the effects it has on their children. Filled with real-life examples, helpful self-tests, and step-by-step guidelines, this book offers compassionate, common-sense advice."

-Juvenile and Family Court Journal


"...the new edition is even better than the first - if that is possible. What was a classic has now become one of the defining texts in the field. It is must reading for any parent transiting divorce and any professional who seeks to help them."

-Family and Conciliation Courts Review


"This is a wonderful book. In clear and eloquent language, Isolina Ricci charts a constructive course for divorcing parents. The chief benefactors of this modern classic will be the children."

-Richard Louv, author of Childhood's Future and The Web of Life


"In seventeen years of family practice, I've given many books to my parent clients, but none helped them heal like Mom's House, Dad's House. If you want to strengthen the heart of your family and come out of the divorce process a stronger, wiser and more peaceful parent--this book is your friend."

-John Kydd, family law attorney and Past President, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts


"This is an upbeat, wise, eminently practical guide for divorcing parents and the professionals who help them. Highly recommended."

-Judith Wallerstein, Ph.D., author, Second Chances


"Mom's House, Dad's House is sensible, sensitive, and amazingly comprehensive: an invaluable resource from a pioneer in this field."

-Riane Eisler, author, The Chalice and the Blade, Sacred Pleasure, The Partnership Way


"Mom's House, Dad's House is a wonderful resource for parents before and after separation, providing guidance about how to maintain their roles as parents so as to minimize the effect of the separation on their children. This book gives parents a roadmap of the problems which can arise, how to resolve them and, indeed, how to avoid them."

-Justice Donald B. King, California Court of Appeal (Retired)